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Dave
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56 Omaha, Nebraska, United States

Male / Widowed / ID: 1543154

Seeking Female 22 - 35 living in United States For: Friendship, Romance / Dating, Marriage

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Quick Overview

Dave

He's Looking For

Education:

Bachelors Degree
Any

Have children:

Yes - sometimes live at home
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Drink:

Don't drink
Any

Smoke:

Don't smoke
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Religion:

Other
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Occupation:

Retired
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Member Overview

Laid back father of 5, 4 girls (all out of high school AND the house..for now at least) and my 13 year old son, who lives with me make up the household. Also two cats (those numbers seem to change yearly, however, depending on what kid brings home the stray) Personally, my friends say I'm very l...
Laid back father of 5, 4 girls (all out of high school AND the house..for now at least) and my 13 year old son, who lives with me make up the household. Also two cats (those numbers seem to change yearly, however, depending on what kid brings home the stray) Personally, my friends say I'm very laid back, stupidly loyal (I stayed married till death did us part even though my wife was a cheating fool.so yes, stupidly loyal, but I also keep my word. I like boating, traveling, vacations, being somewhat lazy (I'm retired after all, so I can do that!), doing things with my 13 year old son, (ho is god's gift to video games..lol) and working on either my house, vehicles or boats (which all soak up money faster than I can make it, it seems) But as a family we're pretty laid back. My last and ONLY girlfriend since my wife died in 2009 was Indonesian, born and raised in Jakarta, came over to the US for college, married a brilliant research who ShoULD have been locked in his lab and fed thru a slot in the door (not a people person by any means) so after 10 years and 3 boys (and being forced to sleep on the couch a mere month after they married (she was pregnant too) so he could have his girlfriend in his bed instead, I know most of you are Moslems of one brand or another (my girlfriend had no idea there were sects like Sunni and Shiite at all until I told her about them) but here in the US, we sort of frown on what you would call polygamy. Why the frown on being married to 2 different women is beyond me, considering that a guy can have two GIRLFRIENDS living with him and that's legally ok. People who write laws really need to be a little more consistent, I think. Anyway, I prefer ONE woman, I have enough trouble keeping track of my wallet, checkbook and car keys! But trust me, things are MUCH different here in the US. When I told her how long my wife had been cheating, she said "well, didn't you beat her ass?" Umm, no, because that would land ME in jail for spousal abuse. She was STUNNED. "But she's your WIFE, its your DUTY!", she said. No, not allowed here, though since apparently 80% of women here in the US CHEAT on their husbands, while only 40% of men do (and half of that is revenge sex), I guess if that was allowed, 80% of the female population would be sporting bruises most of the year. Personally I think that striking a woman is wrong, but I will also add that in self defense, you DO have a right to defend yourself if she goes berserk on you. Now, you might ask WHY do I like Indonesian women? Well, I honestly can't pin down any single fact to explain it. I like blondes as well, (and trust me, an Indonesian gal with blonde hair just doesn't look right) One reason, I think, is that I like women who are shorter than me (and most women want their man to be taller than them anyway). Another would be their belief that family comes first, which is something 99% of American women have either outgrown or have ignored by design. Just like the US I grew up in is long dead and buried, so are the women of that time. It seems that very little of the respect for family, love of family and loyalty TO family rubbed off on the daughters of the past 3 or 4 generations. It's like people today are born without a conscience. ANYTHING is ok if it makes you happy, no matter who you hurt, or how you hurt someone else in the process. This is something I truly abhor and I'm STILL trying to help my own kids develop one, but I think I face an impossible task. Because if you don't genuinely feel SORRY for something you did, either on purpose or inadvertently, to someone else, it will show in your face, body language and even your voice. I've found that Indonesian women DO have a conscience, and that YOUR religions have rather stiff penalties for adultery, even if they can't be enforced here in the US, they certainly are in other places on the planet (although I will admit that having the option to KILL your wife when you find she's not a virgin seems a bit much.. I've seen ballet dancers that tore their hymen simply stretching before dance practice. Not that a fundamentalist style Islamic male would believe it though. Seems all these idiots that are in ISIS simply want to be in charge. They just use their religion (and interpreted wrongly at that, using sound bites instead of the COMPLETE passage they quote to defend their abusive mentality. Funny how you NEVER see one of the "jihadis" wanting to be the guy at the BOTTOM of the social order..which is where a humble man would reside, I think..if he was TRULY following his faith at least. Ok, enough of my blathering on about religion. I'm not a devout ANYTHING except a racer, boater and parent, and truth be told I'm WAY better at the first 2 than I am at being a dad. But at least I ADMIT it.
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Well, what does every guy want? Decent looks, a personality that makes you smile just thinking about it. Drop dead gorgeous wouldn't hurt either, since men are VISUAL FIRST..Women want the best protector and provider for their kids and themselves. I'm ok with that. But I also know that looks fa...
Well, what does every guy want? Decent looks, a personality that makes you smile just thinking about it. Drop dead gorgeous wouldn't hurt either, since men are VISUAL FIRST..Women want the best protector and provider for their kids and themselves. I'm ok with that. But I also know that looks fade and what you're left with is the personality I have PLENTY of experience with a semi sociopath I was married to for 17 years until she died. I keep my word, but I was about ready to walk and NOT come back when she died.. Amazing how women change once the ring is on their finger! I'm sure you've heard this before, but it bears repeating. MEN marry women hoping they'll NEVER change. Women marry men PRAYING that they WILL change. My question is, why marry that person then? If you want him to change, then you're better off finding someone else, because NO man, nor any woman, should have to change unless thy WANT to and even then it's pretty hard to do, and the older you get the tougher it is to change. As for me, I've ALWAYS been the same idiot at work as I am at home. I cannot STAND people who say "I'm a totally different person at work". To me that means you have a split personality, and so WHICH YOU am I supposed to deal with as the one that's really YOU? So there's one very important requirement. You are yourself, the same at work, home, with co-workers or your kids. You're not a "Plastic Person". You have an opinion and you're not afraid to defend it either! I won't say I enjoy arguing (but I think that no matter what ANYONE says, there are times when arguing is the BEST thing to do. I'd much rather pick a fight with my wife when I see her come home from work wound tighter than a winch cable hoisting a shipping container full of lead, just so she could lose her temper, yell, whatever she needed to do to get it out of her system. Seems like EVERY dating site has women saying the same thing..they don't like conflict, or arguments, or fights. Yet they're divorced or single and on this kind of site. My last and only girlfriend since my wife died in 2009 was Indonesian, born and raised in Jakarta, came to the US for college, got married to a BRILLIANT researcher who had zero people skills. She gave him 3 sons, and when the divorce was final he fled the United States and is now in Malaysia. His name is Memhet Bilgen. Just google that name. He's the one who has never paid a cent in child support in the past 4 or 5 years (I helped her provide evidence of his lack of care. He showed the judge photos of 7 different vehicles in her driveway in the course of a month (she lived 300 miles from me) THINKING the judge would care. They were all MY cars, and after I showed the judge my registration papers for each of them (you could see the license plate clearly in each photo) he nearly tossed the ignorant bastard out into oncoming traffic for wasting his time. THEN her ex says he doesn't even have jurisdiction (yet they're both US citizens) and the divorce must be tried in INTERNATIONAL court (which doesn't have a divorce court..lol) We broke up when she got so controlling that I had to call her when I was going to be outside mowing the lawn. I don't do LEASHES at all! And she knew it. Amazingly, a month later she was married. Huh. Seems at least a few muslims can't admit they committed adultery either. When they separated, the laywer said "sure, you can date". However, they were just SEPARATED, not DIVORCED and she was dating LONG before she was divorced, Separated still means MARRIED BUT LIVING APART. She refused to admit she screwed up. Flew into a huge rage, in fact. Me, if I make a mistake, I own up to it. But she never even knew that Islam had sects (Sunni, Shia and a few more minor ones). Anyway, what I'm looking for is a well educated, attractive, active woman, no older than around 38 or so. My wife died at 40 from lung and brain cancer (went in for an earache, came out in a box a week later) and I do NOT want to have to go thru that again, so for me, the younger the better. A warning, I AM FIXED, so no more kids from me and I have 5 grandkids now..and I can give them BACK when I tire of them. However, if you HAVE kids I'll treat them as my own. So remember, well educated, intelligent, somewhat low sense of humor, but well developed, Open minded, not afraid to get her hands dirty helping me work on one of the race cars or boats, or motorcycles I have (Little gals mean small fingers that can get in where I can't), who enjoys SEX, but doesn't have to do it 3 times a day, 365 days of the year..because I'd be the next one in the casket. Sure, there will be the initial LUST factor, but I had my nympho and from my point of view, it's hard to plan anything romantic when your wife is waiting like a tiger ready to launch as you walk in the door. Flattering at first, painful when you've been rubbed raw. I'm a VERY good, experienced lover, as well as a masseuse, mechanic, carpenter, plumber, electrician, pilot, and general "Jack of all trades", excellent at some, good at the rest, and with my military work that took me around the globe several times, I'm very well traveled. Oh, and your parents will like me, even though I'm NOT converting to Islam. I have my own beliefs, and I've had far too many friends killed by these hopefully god forsaken terrorists. Especially these barbaric lunatics who call themselves ISIS. Any religion that allows the massacres ISIS has been doing, is the religion of a pirate, or someone who at least cannot read. I've read the Qur'an FRONT TO BACK, and all I see is that they quote what suits them, even if the next sentence says it should be the exact opposite. Just an excuse for a bunch of sadistic bastards to attempt to enslave others of their own race and religion. So WHY hasn't there been a JIHAD declared AGAINST ISIS? Because those Mullah's and other Islamic scholars are cowards. When an animal in your herd of goats gets sick with a contagious disease, you pull it out of the herd and kill it, so it won't infect the rest of the herd. Muslims can say a lot about Christianity, but Jesus never killed a soul, and Mohammed can't say the same, can he? I'm not a member of ANY religion, precisely because they ALL hate each other and tell you you'll burn in hell if you don't do it THEIR way One other little thing here. HOW can the terrorists have the BALLS to say they should fall under the Geneva convention, when they don't wear uniforms, they hide behind women and children, and when they capture an American, they'll behead him live on internet TV? And then tie the body to the bumper of a vehicle and drag him around the city while everyone else is having a party over it? My girlfriend is moslem and so are her siblings and parents. NONE Of them could tell me WHY the leaders of ISLAM can't get together and FIX the problem permanently! After all, it's not CHRISTIANS who are slaughtering other Muslims..they're all killing EACH OTHER. Ask that question to your local Islamic scholar. The answer will surprise you, I think. In'shallah, I believe? I have no problems dating a woman who is of that faith, or ANY faith. I have my own view and I keep it to myself. I DO have a problem with terrorists who twist the words to suit their own benefit (like all the women you can rape after they sack a town (Like they did a thousand years ago on both sides of the crusades.) Remember that the Geneva Convention basically spells out WHO are considered civilians and who are military forces, and HOW they must identify themselves to be ELIGIBLE for Protections under the Geneva Convention. ISIS spits on your honor. Sorry if this angered a few of you, but what I wanted to do was make EVERYONE here THINK about this, even if you're angry when someone calls it like it is, who was blown up not once, not TWICE but FOUR times by JIHADists IED's (improvised Explosive Devices) I served as a sniper overwatch during Haj several times and shot one man who was on the pilgrimage road, with a trenchcoat on, and he was encased in enough explosive to have killed hundreds of people. He was using a dead man switch, which he had to keep pressed..if he let go, he would explode and all you MIGHT find of him was his shoes. I shot him where the body will follow the last known directive of the brain. And STAY there. And I saved at least a hundred pilgrim's lives and possibly another hundred or two from being savagely mauled (the plastic explosive they had him wrapped up with had a 2 layer thick coating of JACKS (as in the kid game where you bounce the ball and pick up as many jacks as you can.) those hitting a body, even just ONE, will leave an exit hole in a human body the size of your fist. JUST ONE, and there were several THOUSAND imbedded in the explosives. So anyone who says that I have a problem with Islam needs to get his or her facts straight. My girlfriend was muslim and I had ZERO problems with it. If she'd been a terrorist MOLE, I'd have found out. But it seems that in Indonesia, the government still manages to control the press, or the guys in the mosque do, because she'd never even heard about the RUSSIAN'S problems in Afghanistan, much les our OWN. Ok, sorry for the rant, but I wanted to make you THINK. for me, it would be very hard for me to be in a religion that preaches peace, while their own members plot to kill as many as they can, not of even CHRISTIANS, but of their OWN religion, just a different sect. That's like having a town full of ONLY red haired people, but executing everyone with FLAME RED HAIR. Think about it, OK? I'm not saying to CHANGE your religion or what you believe. ALL I want is for ISLAM to police itself. Because trust me, Americans are getting VERY tired of trying to clean up the messes that Islam has created all over the world. It's time for the Islamic Faith to clean its own house. Now, if you're still interested in me after THAT small book that I wrote, feel free to drop me a note. Especially if you found something that I said was UNTRUE and you can prove it. I'm very open minded and I have no problem saying I was wrong. Cheers! Dave Beem
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More About Me

Dave

He's Looking For

Basic

Gender:
Male
Female
Age:
For privacy reasons, age is accurate to within 2 weeks
56
22 - 35
Lives in:
Omaha, Nebraska, United States
United States
Relocate:
Willing to relocate to another country
Any

Appearance

Hair color:
Brown
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Hair length:
Short
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Hair type:
Straight
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Eye color:
Brown
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Eye wear:
Glasses
Any
Height:
5'8" (173 cm)
Any
Weight:
86 kg (189 lb)
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Body style:
Average
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Ethnicity:
Caucasian (White)
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Facial hair:
Clean Shaven
N/A
Best feature:
My Eyes
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Body art:
None
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Appearance:
Average
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Lifestyle

Drink:
Don't drink
Any
Smoke:
Don't smoke
Any
Marital Status:
Widowed
Any
Have children:
Yes - sometimes live at home
Any
Number of children:
5
Any
Oldest child:
Older than 18
Any
Youngest child:
13
Any
Want (more) children:
Not Sure
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Have pets:
Cat
Any
Occupation:
Retired
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Employment status:
Retired
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Income:
$30,001 - $60,000 USD
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Home type:
House
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Living situation:
Live with kids
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Background / Cultural Values

Nationality:
United States
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Education:
Bachelors Degree
Any
Languages spoken:
English
English
English ability:
Fluent
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Japanese ability:
Good
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Religion:
Other
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Chinese sign:
Don't Know
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Star sign:
Cancer
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Hobbies & Interests

Entertainment:

Beach / Parks, Camping / Nature, Cars / Mechanics, Family, Home Improvement, Library, Music (Listening), Motorcycles, Movies / Cinema, News / Politics, Pets

Food:

American, Barbecue, Seafood, Cajun / Southern, Greek, Italian, Southwestern, Continental

Music:

Classical / Opera, Country / Folk, Metal, New Age, Rock, Soft Rock

Sport:

Auto Racing, Boating / Sailing, Darts, Fishing, Pool / Billards, Table Tennis, Tennis / Badminton, Walking

More About Me

Favorite Movie:

Probably Star Wars. Because at the time it was released (1977) we'd just pulled out of VietNam just a few years before and the BAD GUYS were a cross between Communists and the Nazis Gestapo. IN this movie, we (the good guys) kicked their A$$es. Plus the symphony and the writers made a truly magnificent soundtrack. To me it ranks right up there with Wagner's "Ride of the VALKERIES" and I'd bet it IS the most well known movie soundtrack ever for a symphony (with no vocals) ever made

Favorite Book:

I can't tell you a favorite book since I've read tens of thousands of books in my lifetime and STILL read around 800 words per minute. But I CAN tell you which authors. Poul Anderson, Robert Heinlein, Dale Brown , Eric Flint, Dave Freer, Dave Drake, Orson Scott Card, Lois McMaster-Bujold, Hugo Grensbach (the guy the sci fi HUGO Award is named after), and anyone else who writes GOOD science fiction. Remember that MOST of the technology we have today came from a young kid reading science fiction and saying "HEY, I can MAKE that, and I can make it work! (For example, Buck Rogers and the "Death Ray" was pulled off the shelves during World War 2, because several universities were just starting to experiment with Lasers.

Favorite Food:

This is easy. My OWN cooking. the only time I go out to eat is if I simply cannot duplicate the dish at home. I'm well known for seeking out the chef/cook and tipping HIM! After all, the waiter is only the delivery boy. But I'll tip the waiter too, IF I never have to look for him to refill a glass. Most of the time I can get a chef to trade recipies with me., and I'm a pretty good chef, though my pastry abilities quite frankly suck, and fish just cooks WAY too fast. Prime Rib and Ribeye steaks..

Favorite Music:

Good old fashioned ROCK AND ROLL, I despise RAP music because of the way the writers are horribly disrespectful to women, the police, and everyone else who isn't black, basically. Not to mention the "every other word is a swear word" either

Humor:

Depends on my mood. I can be bitingly sarcastic, or British dry sense of humor, with physical comedy/humor and it occasionally gets to be a rather low sense of humor as well

Hobbies & Interests:

Traveling, Boating, Racing, Flying, working on all of those as well

Travelled:

Been all over the world. WOULD like to visit a few places where people aren't trying to kill me all the time, however.

Cultural Adaption:

Remember I said my last and only girlfriend was Indonesian and Muslim?

Romance:

Deserted Island or at least a beach, clothing optional and NO BUGS. I've heard that there's a single Indonesian island that has NO BUGS to speak of, no mosquitos and houseflies for certain. THAT place, because it's uninhabited until they boat in to harvest fruit

Personality:

Laid back

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