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Erik
58 Medford, Oregon, United States
Seeking: Female 27 - 34
About myself? Hmmmm... Lets face it, scoundrels and decent men alike will both say “I’m a nice guy “ so I’m going to tell a story to let you know a little about me. Way back in 1999 I was in a very serious car accident. I’m told that I was awake after being in a coma for three days, but “not all there”To me, I woke up 5 or 6 weeks later in Hospital 4 with only a few vauge, dream like memories of the past weeks. When I woke up I knew I was in a hospital, because there were ladies (mostly filipinas) dressed like nurses. I was in what they call a “tent bed”becuase some people who have suffered head injuires (TBI) try to run away from the hospital. Apparently I was one of those people. Now if you’re scared by that head injury revelation, at least read this story to it’s conclusion. After all, I’m baring my soul to you, and there is a happy ending :) After I got a nurses attention so that I could use the bathroom, I saw that my whole right side was green, One big fadded bruise. My car had flown off an embankment and hit a tree sideways, and then I slamed into the side of my car. My neck was fractured and I sustained a “tramatic brain injury” (TBI) along with some nerve damage to my right shoulder. The tree was not injured. The prognosis for me was pretty dim. I had suffered major TBI. My family was told that I would probably never work or live independently again. When the Drs told me I would probably never drive again, I said “I have to have a drivers llisence to operate trains!” as that had been my job, Driving commute trains in the San Francisco Bay Area. The Dr, ( Dr. Bedside mannor, I called him later) , went off on a rant about how I had to accept that my life was altered, that I would probably never be able to drive, much less operate trains again. After he left, my step-father said. “Wow, he could have been a little nicer about that, couldn’t he?” I knew my life was changed! I lived it every moment of every day! My thoughts about recovery were simple: “if you don’t try, it’s the same as failure” and though I knew there was a high likelyhood of limitations on my recovery, I wanted to find those limitations out for myself, not just accept them, being afraid of failure “failure teaches us what is neccesary to succeed in the future” I thought. For the next six weeks I underwent a number of therapys, both physical and mental, or “speech pathology” as well as a number of tests to see the degree of T.B.I. I had suffered, and to give the speech pathologist an idea of where to concentrate her efforts. Even though I had some nerve damage to my right arm and left leg, those didnt’t bother me. I was alive and could still walk, smell roses and watch sunsets! What bothered and depressed me was the speech pathology, because simple things that I had once taken for granted were now difficult, and at first, my short term memory was so bad I would forget the topic of conversation, ask “what were we talking about?” and be suprised at the answer. Things got better though! after six weeks I was sent home under the care of my parents. Speech pathology went on for the next year in an out patient way. I bought some computer programs to help me develope my memory and worked at them every day. I learned that cardio vascular exersize in good for TBI recovery, so I rode my stationary bicycle hard for 20 minutes every morning. After.another few monthsI passed the “three words test” and got my drivers license back! My parents had left by then and I was living by myself, with two kittens “thunder and lightning” to raise and keep me company. Finally after a year of work(I’m cutting this to make it fit now) I passed the tests to allow me to return to work driving trains!!!!! Rejoice! I Found the whole experience very humbling. Many People work as hard as I did and are not fortunate enough to reach that level of recovery. I live each day in gratitude for the blessings of my life. There's your story. make of it what you will. People who didn't know me before are suprized to lean about my disability. I do become tired more quickly during trying mental tasks, but I test above average in every test given to me by the neuropsychologists. I became a Christian as a result of this experience. About me? I'm described as "very kind" love children and pets. Hate gossip and liars, and manipulative people. Just be honest! My very close friend of 30 years told me I was "refreshingly honest" I'm very slow to anger. I guess you could say I'm a fighter, but not a physical combatant type. I'm not a paid subscriber now. so I can't respond to letters yet. but soon enough. If I've visited your page often, then I'm an admirer!
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